Regan has been married to her sweetheart Lucas for 3 years but they have been together for a total of 10 years. Lucas is in the United States Air Force and they are currently stationed at their first base, Joint Base Elemendorf Richardson in Anchorage, Alaska. Lucas has yet to be deployed but they have been apart for 3 TDYs. Regan is a teacher whose best advice is to find a community of friends wherever you go!
My best advice for military spouses is to make sure you have a solid community surrounding you. It’s best to find that community while your partner is in town, that way he will be able to jump back in and feel included once he gets back, without having to get to know a whole new group of people. This will also make your partner feel more comfortable while he’s gone, knowing that you’ve got a core group of friends around you.
Another thing I would do, is layout a schedule for when Lucas was gone. I would count up the number of weeks he was going to be gone and choose that number of new things that I was going to do. I’d schedule to do one new thing a week, usually by myself. It gave me an opportunity to meet new people as well as learn something new!
One of the greatest things about being a military spouse is from what we’ve experienced, the Air Force has taken really good care of us! We got our first-choice assignment (Alaska) and we have loved being here. We definitely would not have had this opportunity with any other career path.
And one of the best lessons we’ve learned throughout our relationship is to make a bucket list for each duty station. We made one the first year we got to Alaska and it has really helped us get out of our comfort zones and try things we might not otherwise do. You’re only going to be at each duty station for so long and it would be sad to miss out on some of the best things that area has to offer! Making a bucket list was probably the best choice we made when we first got here.
Thank you for your service Lucas and thank YOU Regan for yours!