Meg has been with her other half, Ben, for 7.5 years now. For 3.5 of those years, Ben has been serving in the Army Reserve. Due to the nature of the Reserves she doesn’t have experience moving base to base. However, she does have wisdom to share after experiencing Ben’s years of service along with his 11 month deployment to Kabul, Afghanistan. Meg keeps herself (very) busy as a registered nurse and wedding photographer. Her biggest piece of advice – relationships take work — they are my no means a one way street but sometimes you have to drive on one side more than the other for a little while and that’s okay as long as you appreciate it afterwards.
As for advice concerning bases, I’ve never had to deal with finding a job based on being stationed anywhere [since he’s in The Reserve] so I don’t have a lot of advice on that, but with starting your own business and moving I know it’s important to do research as far in advance as you can, start joining local FB groups for whatever it is you do, and start marketing before you move. As much as you can of course.
During his deployment especially we didn’t keep anything from one another. He didn’t keep events that happened over there from me (not classified info y’all), and I didn’t keep the stuff that was happening at home from him. He’s my best friend, my biggest supporter, there’s no way I would have made it through that deployment without him. It seemed controversial to me at first, because every where you read tells you to keep the sh*t going on at home to a minimum, you want your soldier to focus on his job, but again, for us, that wasn’t going to work. It gave Ben more to worry about if I didn’t talk about it. Mind you, I still HANDLED all the ish that went down while he was gone, but he knew about it. That worked for us. It might not work for you, and that’s ok, but talk about this stuff BEFORE deploying…not during. I also made sure that I had something to do that made me feel connected, which was care packages. I sent so many. And they were filled with such random crud…but I felt like I was doing something and in a way touching Ben, when I couldn’t in real life. I think in his 11 month deployment I sent…like 20ish. I sent a few around Christmas because it’s our favorite holiday, and I sent presents and cookies for the other people he was deployed with.
Anyways – the other thing was that I threw myself into my business…I had fun with my friends, and I grew a lot. I spent most nights at home, on the couch, with our dog watching TV and missing him, but I still did things. I didn’t hermit up all the way.
I’m immensely proud of Ben, and of the commitment he made to our country. I also have so much more of an appreciation of our relationship.
Thank you for your service, Ben! & thank YOU for your service, Meg!