Jess is an Air Force fiancé. She and soon-to-be-husband, Philip have been dating for 7.5 years, 2 of which have been spent in the Air Force. Jess and Philip are currently in a long distance relationship as Jess is in Vet School in Iowa and Philip is stationed at Nellis AFB (Good Lord!). When she visits Philip in Las Vegas, there are of course many touristy things to do but their favorite activity to do when she visits is hiking. Jess is really looking forward to living in different places together with Philip once the long distance is over. The biggest lesson she has learned in her relationship with Philip and the Air Force is that communication is key!
Philip and I began dating in high school and both attended Virginia Tech together. At VT he was a member of the Corps of Cadets and had an Air Force Scholarship, so we actually ended up being forced into a long-distance relationship for Philip’s 5th year of school (I was living at home in between graduating from undergrad and getting into veterinary school) and we have been living that way ever since. We spent the summer together at home in Pittsburgh, PA before I went to Iowa to start veterinary school at Iowa State and before he was stationed at Nellis AFB in Las Vegas as an engineer. On July 30th, 2015, we got engaged (because why not complicate things more than they already were)! Since then, we have managed the hundreds of miles and 2-3 hour time differences (depending on whether I’m in PA or IA) between us as well as any couple could! Our wedding date will be June 29th, 2019 because we wanted to wait until I have finished vet school. SO we will be rocking the long-distance thing until then. But in the midst of planning a wedding, Philip got pulled for a short tour (I think that’s what they call it) in South Korea for a year starting this fall (yay – more distance AND more time differences -__-). Currently, we’re working on breaking some records for longest/longest distance engagement – so we will keep you all updated!
Advice I have for anyone in a similar situation – don’t do it! Just kidding, he’s worth it. <3 But, if you and your SO are seriously considering this option, just know that it is not for the faint of heart. I’ve been with Philip for nearly 7.5 years and as compatible as we are together, it does require so much effort and work. With two busy schedules, an annoying time zone difference, and many miles between us, we are always working on ways to improve our communication. Whether that’s scheduling phone calls, Facetime dates (Lord knows Skype never cooperates when you need it), or just texting/snapping each other with updates throughout the day – it doesn’t matter, but communication always has to be a top priority! On a positive note, being separate does give you lots of independence and time to work on what you need to do for yourself! For me, becoming a veterinarian is my dream and that’s why we are living this way FOR NOW. But, it’s important to remember that IT WON’T ALWAYS BE LIKE THIS! You can get through it and although there may or may not be a deployment/travel in your future, one day you and your love will get to be together like normal, real adults and do life together how you want to do it.