We’re so excited to have Courtney on the blog this week as the WWW! Courtney and her now husband, John, dated for seven years before finally getting married and starting this exciting journey of life together. Courtney stays busy as an elementary school teacher while John flies the big dudes (C-17s) for the Air Force. Now that he has completed pilot training (congratulations on your pinning, John!), they’re about to start a new adventure in the beautiful Charleston, SC.
After nearly 3 years of marriage we have this Air Force method of hurry up and wait down pat. (We get it, that doesn’t mean we like it!) We spent almost nine months after commissioning to receive our first set of orders, which then gave us two weeks to move from Virginia to Oklahoma. It was a whirlwind, but my advice for any move is to make the most of your trip from one location to the next. We turned the madness into a vacation and used the government’s money to have a little fun and sight see along the way!
We have now been at Vance AFB in Enid, OK for a year and a half. Although there’s not a lot to this small training base, I have met some of my closest friends and gotten the best advice I will take with me wherever we go. “No matter what base you are at or how much you hate about the area, always look for at least one positive thing about it and focus on that. That positive is what will get you through.” John and I have made it our goal to participate in new activities and visit surrounding states that we would have otherwise never gotten to see had we not been here. Although the flat land and tornadoes aren’t very appealing- the rodeos, concerts, road trips, UFC fights, Zumba classes, and late nights downtown have made the time here worthwhile.
Counting my blessings we have not experienced this yet. Next year will be a whole new ballgame as we just received our next assignment to C17s at Charleston, SC! I pinned John’s wings on last Friday!
Advice for Finding Jobs
I am an Elementary School Teacher. Applying and interviewing for a new job each move can be stressful, especially when having to change licensure over for each state. Start early, call ahead, and build a network. Talk to other spouses that are educators in the same area and plan a visit to the Airmen Family and Readiness Center.
Favorite Part About Being a Military Spouse
Being a military wife isn’t always sunshine and rainbows, but I’d like to think the positives outweigh the negatives. So let’s look at a few positives:
1. Benefits, benefits, benefits! (Such as paid healthcare!!! Which is a huge deal these days!)
2. Air Force Friends. Okay, so the people I’ve met here at Vance are more like family than friends. They dog sit for us when we are out of town, share advice on the best places in town to eat, get my hair colored and nails done, and have my back when training isn’t going as planned (that awesome hurry up and wait method again).
3. I have never liked being alone, but being forced alone has taught me independence. Every day I take one step further out of my comfort zone- meeting new people, attending events, and making phone calls I never thought I would have the nerve to do.
4. Let’s face it; our husbands are pretty cool, and they look good in uniform too! 😉
Most Important Lesson Learned
Put your spouse first, keeping them front and foremost in all your decisions.Never stop the adventure! Every day is an opportunity, so take it.Pick your battles! Don’t fight over the little stuff. Hardships are the test of love. I know it seems cliché, but absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Use time apart to complete a project or take up a hobby for yourself you have been putting off. Talk, and REALLY talk. Sitting next to one another on the couch while each of you is on your phone or watching T.V. doesn’t count as time together. I know life is busy for all of us, and military life is especially tiring, but take time alone each week to TALK to one another. Catch up on all those things that have taken a back burner throughout the week. Communication is key to keeping unnecessary fights at bay.
Thank you for your service John and thank YOU for yours Courtney! GO HOKIES!