I think every spouse has his or her ways of getting through deployments. Being that this is my very first deployment experience, I often asked for advice from seasoned fellow spouses. Their response was always something to the effect of “Stay busy.” Upon his departure, I set out to do just that. I amped up my good eating habits and started working out religiously. I took up new hobbies. I started reading more. However, my favorite thing to do to “stay busy” is travel. Here are six reasons why spouses should travel while their serviceman or woman is away:
- Travel gives your something to look forward to.
Deployment is a long time to be without your best friend. It can seem even longer if you do not create your own excitement. For me, creating my own excitement means making travel plans and jet setting on mini vacations. I love booking up my calendar with weekend trips and it keeps my mind occupied planning and anticipating all the exciting experiences that await me! The best feeling is looking through your calendar knowing that travel is allowing you to live your best life while he is gone. Not to mention, the homecoming countdown seems to go by much faster!
- Travel reconnects you with the best company.
I’ve been so fortunate in my life to have found lifelong friendships and it is so important for me to keep them. I think everyone knows that this is so much easier said than done when life gets in the way. Friends move away, get married, have kids, change jobs and it makes it tough to stay in touch. Simply put, life happens. Travel allows you to bridge the gaps that life has created and deployment is the perfect time to reconnect with those friends.
- Travel allows you to see new places and new faces.
Your spouse is off seeing the world so why not have an adventure of your own? I have been so many places and met so many friends of friends within the last few months through my travels. I can say with certainty that I have had many memorable experiences that have already made this non-ideal deployment situation into such an undeniably positive experience.
- Travel allows you to get out of your routine.
It is so easy to fall into a wake up, go to work, get home, workout, eat dinner, go to sleep routine. While it is wonderful to have a cadence to your newfound, independent, boss babe life, it can get monotonous at times. Planning trips and traveling allows you to break out of this routine and add some excitement, which is so important when you have six months to a year of carrying on with the same old routine.
- Travel helped me regain my independence.
My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and a half. Over the course of this time, I have become unknowingly dependent on my husband and his company. So much so that during this deployment, I have had to relearn how to live on my own. It has been challenging but honestly so rewarding. Travel has played a large part in regaining this independence. There is something so empowering to be felt about traveling by yourself and being okay.
Of course, these trips require a good amount of funding but honestly, it has been worth every penny because the experiences I have had and the memories I have made are priceless. At the end of the day, I want to be able to tell my own stories to my family and friends about what I did during deployment. I want my husband to know that I am living my best life and not simply waiting around for him to get home. Most importantly, I want the self-satisfaction that comes with knowing that my life did not stop just because he was gone.